Do you ever just chill?

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Do you or your kids ever chill? I don’t just mean chillin’ in front of the TV or iPad. I mean chill with no stimulus.

If the answer is no, read on…

You know what I’ve realised? I rarely take the time I need to relax, unwind and mull over my day. Taking time out in a day to relax is a great way to relieve stress and anxiety and be more present in life.

I came home from work and collapsed on the couch on Monday afternoon. I had so much to do (school reports, cook dinner, clean) but I just couldn’t do it! I don’t ever remember feeling like this. Especially when I had so much on my plate.

But… I went to bed anyway and I didn’t feel an ounce of guilt because well to be honest I never give myself time without any stimulus. I am either reading, listening, watching tv or scrolling through social media killing brain cells.

I went to my room closed my eyes and let my mind wonder (no not mediation) I held onto thoughts, and I let them take me to other thoughts. Not falling asleep, just resting.

Do you ever do this? Does your child? We are so busy but sometimes it’s important to schedule rest. No screen time just rest… For your child this might look like you reading them a story or them talking to themselves, letting their imagination go wild. To be honest I think it is more important for us than it is for children.

Below are 5 way we can steal some time out of the day for rest to help us relieve stress and anxiety from our day:

Coffee shop

The other day on my way home from work I felt a chocolate craving coming on, so I swerved into a coffee shop that was open and ordered a hot chocolate (healthier than a chocolate bar right???) I sat down and savoured my sweet creamy hot choccie. Have you got any time to steal away for some alone time with a sweet beverage in secret? I had so much energy when I got home, it was wonderful.


Grab the dog (or cat if you’re into that) and go for a walk around the block. No phones, just you, your thoughts and the pavement. I like to do this first thing in the morning, but sometimes after a stressful day I go for another in the afternoon.


I actually don’t have the luxury of this one, but I dream about it all the time.

Read fiction

Reading fiction is wonderful is a wonderful way of escaping, but we don’t do it enough. We feel guilty if we are not reading to learn and grow, self growth books are awesome (I’m a self help junkie myself), however sometimes we just need to explore the art of words and writing through someone else’s view.

Lock yourself in the bathroom

Yes, you heard me correctly, lock yourself in the bathroom for half an hour. Put on your beauty mask, soak your feet in tea tree oil, shave your legs and scrub that skin. Pampering doesn’t need to cost money. But how many of us let that side of things slip when we are busy. Personally I don’t know how some women just look so manicured! Where do they find the time? You know what I realised… They make time and we need to as well.

Take time out for yourself so that you can give to others.

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Life, love and laughter,

Alex xx

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  1. Very well put, Alex! We are consistently bombarded with so much stimulus; you are absolutely correct. I plan on taking a nice little break now with a book myself! Thank you for reminding me of the importance of these breaks!

      • Right now, I am actual reading a non-fiction book, The Immortal Cells of Henrietta Lacks. I find it fascinating because her cells have been endlessly for countless discovers, from polio to chemo; the book also amplifies the history of race relations in the United States, particularly in the recently controversial Baltimore area. In terms of a fiction book I am reading, I have also been skimming through a book called The Romantics that I purchased at the dollar store. Definitely good for relaxing because it doesn’t take much focus to follow along the course of two college roommates years after graduating.

        Are you reading anything exciting recently that I should look into?

        • Alex says:

          Sounds like a fascinating read… I’ve just finished ‘the life of bees’ which is a beautiful story of American slavery and hope. I definitely got lost in it. Xx

  2. april says:

    I find the best way to relax (for me!)is to talk a walk, even for 20 minutes. No phone, no iPod, just me and my feets walking in the neighborhood. I find that I return home waaaay more invigorated!!!! I like you idea about locking yourself in the bathroom and taking time to paper yourself. We need to do that more often!!!!

    • Alex says:

      Ooh, I think I might need to discuss a new bathroom structure with my boyfriend ha ha. All this talk about baths has got me dreaming of one. xx

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